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Start awkwardly if you have to
Self-help is not the right tool for an emergency. If you or someone else is in danger, call 999 or go to A&E. If you need urgent mental-health help but it is not an emergency, use NHS 111 online or call 111 and select the mental-health option.
You don't need to suddenly become a man who says “I'd like to discuss my emotional wellbeing”.
Use normal words
“Mate, I've been having a rough time.” “My head's all over the place.” “I'm not myself.” Pick language that sounds like you.
Give them a clue what you want
“I don't need solutions — just wanted somebody to know.” Or: “Can you help me work out what to do next?”
Ask them to check back
A conversation is useful. Somebody remembering on Thursday that Tuesday was rough can be even more useful.
Self-help doesn't mean alone
Good to Talk home · When to get help · When self-help isn't enough
Sources & further reading
- NHS Every Mind Matters — mental wellbeing tips
- NHS Every Mind Matters — mental health issues
- NHS — self-help
Self-help can support mental wellbeing, but it is not a substitute for professional assessment or treatment when those are needed.